Body Shaming is More Than Being a Bitch

Body Shaming is More Than (1)

 

Hello!  I’m here with my first recovery post and it’s a topic that sits really close to my heart.

 

 

I grew up being that skinny blonde kid with knobby knees and too much hair.  I went through puberty just like everyone else except I did it with a life-ending eating disorder.  My body was weird.  Some months, I would look completely normal, and other times I would look emancipated.

 

My close friends knew I had an eating disorder and they knew I refused to seek treatment because I wasn’t ‘thin enough’.  So I continued to suffer in silence for years and years until I was almost 14 years old and I finally received medical treatment.

 

But even though people knew about my problems, even though they saw how thin and miserable I was, I was still bullied.  I was called fat and ugly.  And it never ended. I was called names and shamed about my weight and my body up until I was 17 and decided I was done with listening to others’ opinions about my body.

 

I can still remember when one of my best friends told me I was ‘the skinniest fat person’ she had ever seen.  Maybe she meant I was ‘skinny fat’ (something a lot of anorexics are with no muscle whatsoever’ but still.  Why was saying that necessary?

 

Body shaming is more than just being a bitch, it’s about hating yourself.  It’s about hating how you look and feeling insecure with your body and how you look.  It’s about wishing you could look differently and not knowing how to love yourself.  It’s about subconsciously attempting to make someone else understand how much you hate yourself.

 

When people called me fat, it wasn’t always because they were trying to purposefully make me hate myself, though sometimes it was.  Many girls said these things to me because they were insecure about their own bodies and they didn’t want to be the only ones alone with their feelings.

 

I’m not suggesting you go out and become best friends with the girls who hated you and told you shit about your body but I am saying you need to understand that many of those women/girls/high school boys said those things because they’re insecure themselves.  Stop listening to these people.  They’re upset with themselves and unfortunately, they have chosen to deal with their problems with angry words.

 

So let them go.  Let go of the hateful body shaming people and tell yourself that they are insecure with themselves and what they say is not a reflection of you but a reflection of them.

 

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Friday Inspiration: Bring Your Own Sunshine

Bring your own sunshine

Life is hard, it kicks you in the gut and leaves you angry and hurt. When something horrible happens, why should we let it leave us in the dirt? We are better than that. Each and every one of us can choose how we react to things.
We may not be able to change what happens to us, but we can choose how we react. I’ll be honest, I’ve had a rough life and I have wallowed in it and let myself become depressed and uninspired. But that’s such a waste of time. All of us deserve to live a joyful, fun life. I know things happen that will rip your heart out, but pick yourself back up and keep going.
Life might suck, it might be hard, and it might be awful. But by finding the joy in life and staying positive even when you don’t want to get out of bed, that’s when you become the strongest.
Bring your own sunshine; don’t let anyone bring you down, don’t let the negativity in your life ruin your day. Make your own happiness, make your own joy. Bring your own sunshine.

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banishing the winter blues

Winter blues

 

I’m sure you’ve all heard the lovely news that we have six more weeks of winter. I am not looking forward to more cold months! There’s always those of us who can’t stand the colder months and experience depression and angst during this weather. Seasonal depression is a real thing and effects many people every year.

If you’re like me and aching for the warm, summer days when you aren’t locked up inside beneath a couple dozen blankets with no sun in sight, I’ve got a few simple remedies!

1) Sunshine

I know it’s hard to come by when it’s dark and dreary out but when there is sun, soak it up! I love having my curtains open as much as possible and I sit outside if it’s not too cold. Go for a quick walk with your dog or alone and enjoy the warm rays. If the weather is feeling nice, maybe a warmer day, open those windows!

2) Stay social

Don’t lock yourself up inside when winter comes. Go out with your friends and have some fun! Happiness is always a cure for the blues. Going out and being with other people can help keep you from feeling isolated and sluggish.

?3) Take care of yourself

During these icky months, you have to take care of yourself! It’s easy to get caught up with work, school, family, and everything but yourself. Try journaling, taking a hot bath with salts or a bath bomb, pamper yourself, and try eating healthy! By cutting back on stimulants, like caffeine and alcohol, your body won’t be hyperactive and stressed. Don’t forget to exercise! Exercise increases serotonin and endorphin levels. And remember, happy people just don’t kill their husbands. :)

4) Colors

Different colors can have effects on your mood. By surrounding yourself with warm colors like yellows, oranges, and reds, you can create an inviting and cheery environment. I love decorating with warmer colors during the winter because I feel much more alive and joyful. Try a throw pillow, blanket, or some bright flowers!

5) Appreciate the beautiful moments

It gets so easy to continue on with our lives and getting stuck in the depression that winter brings. , but if you take a few minutes each day to look around and see beauty, you won’t feel so low. I love watching my puppies play in the snow, the sun peeking through branches, or the way icicles drip off roofs. Take pictures with people you love, enjoy the hot tea in your palms, the crips pages under your fingers.

6) Essential oils

I have recently fallen deeply in love with essential oils. Cheery scents such as jasmine and lemon are great for perking up your mood. Try applying a drop on your wrists, jawline, and dab the rest under your nose to keep the smell all day.

I hope you all perk up a little even if the sky is dark and the roads are nasty! Have a fantastic week!

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