“Don’t allow your rituals to become ruts.” -Todd Henry
This quote really struck home with me. I have been struggling for the past six(ish) months with the feeling of being stuck. Part of it has to do with my constant urge to adventure and move but it also has to do with my unfortunate lack of change. And part of it has to do with the lives of those around me that seem to stand stuck in time.
I think we as people get stuck in a rut and we don’t know how to get out. It’s like a roller coaster you can’t get off of. I’ve watched so many people, some of whom I love dearly, live the same day over and over for decades. They say they’re happy and content but for some reason, it’s hard to believe that living a life of repetitive rituals can be pleasing and fulfilling.
When we live these kinds of lives, we don’t have new experiences, we don’t meet new people, and we don’t grow. Part of being human is growing. Without new experiences, we become stagnant and if we’re being honest, boring. Some of the most boring and unhappy people I’ve met are the ones who have 9-5 jobs, never leave their home town, and have had the same daily routine for the past twelve years.
Get out of your comfort zone and try something new! It can be small like taking a new route to work or huge like moving to a new country. Doing things that are new and different cause us to adapt and change. We need to change to become better people and new people. Who really wants to be the same person and do the same things until they die? Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life (I don’t remember who said this but if you do, let me know!)
I challenge you to do something new everyday. Maybe try a new coffee or go for a hike instead of your afternoon run. Whatever it is, break out of your rituals and try something new.
Hello! I’m here with my first recovery post and it’s a topic that sits really close to my heart.
I grew up being that skinny blonde kid with knobby knees and too much hair. I went through puberty just like everyone else except I did it with a life-ending eating disorder. My body was weird. Some months, I would look completely normal, and other times I would look emancipated.
My close friends knew I had an eating disorder and they knew I refused to seek treatment because I wasn’t ‘thin enough’. So I continued to suffer in silence for years and years until I was almost 14 years old and I finally received medical treatment.
But even though people knew about my problems, even though they saw how thin and miserable I was, I was still bullied. I was called fat and ugly. And it never ended. I was called names and shamed about my weight and my body up until I was 17 and decided I was done with listening to others’ opinions about my body.
I can still remember when one of my best friends told me I was ‘the skinniest fat person’ she had ever seen. Maybe she meant I was ‘skinny fat’ (something a lot of anorexics are with no muscle whatsoever’ but still. Why was saying that necessary?
Body shaming is more than just being a bitch, it’s about hating yourself. It’s about hating how you look and feeling insecure with your body and how you look. It’s about wishing you could look differently and not knowing how to love yourself. It’s about subconsciously attempting to make someone else understand how much you hate yourself.
When people called me fat, it wasn’t always because they were trying to purposefully make me hate myself, though sometimes it was. Many girls said these things to me because they were insecure about their own bodies and they didn’t want to be the only ones alone with their feelings.
I’m not suggesting you go out and become best friends with the girls who hated you and told you shit about your body but I am saying you need to understand that many of those women/girls/high school boys said those things because they’re insecure themselves. Stop listening to these people. They’re upset with themselves and unfortunately, they have chosen to deal with their problems with angry words.
So let them go. Let go of the hateful body shaming people and tell yourself that they are insecure with themselves and what they say is not a reflection of you but a reflection of them.
Hello lovelies! I know I haven’t posted this month but I’ve been so busy with Vlogmas, I’m a little burned out! But never fear!
I wanted to talk a bit about New Year’s Resolutions. Everyone makes them, but how many of us actually keep them?
I’m sure in high school we all made SMART goals. Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-Bound. Though I don’t fill out each of these for each and every goal I have but it’s actually really important to look at your resolutions as goals not just things you want to do.
There are lots of different goals you can make. Things like health related goals, blogging goals, whatever! But make sure they’re reasonable. If you want to post on Instagram every single day but in 2015 you averaged 1-2 a week, you might want to set a goal that is so much above your average from this year. Though it is good to push yourself, don’t set yourself up for failure because a few weeks in, you’ll get burned out and start hating yourself for not making the goals.
Think of your resolutions as goals not resolutions and you’ll find it easier to follow. You’re more likely to actually meet these goals because it’s easier to eat a whole-foods diet five times a week than it is to just ‘eat healthier’. Instead of saying you want to get into running, say you want to run a 10k.
So, here’s a few examples of my goals for this year.
Create a film (travel, short, etc) and post to Vimeo once a month
1-2 Hauls per month
Post at least 1 time a week on my blog
5-6 Instagram posts per week
Hike the Colorado trail
What are your goals for this year?
PS: Follow me and come say hi!
Hello lovelies! I know I haven’t been very active the past month but I’m back on track! I decided to participate in Vlogmas this year so I will be posting a daily vlog every single freaking day until Christmas!! And let’s just say I’m super pumped.
Hopefully I’ll be doing some interesting things because I’m currently in cram week because next week is finals week. I’m cringing as I type this. But never fear! I will be going on a road trip and getting a new tattoo towards the end of the month! The Christmas lover inside of me wants to go ice skating and make Christmas cookies so I’ll try and cram that in sometime this month.
I’m also probably going to be doing a few Q&A type videos or like some chatty videos so let me know if there’s anything you want to hear!
I’m linking the first video below but I probably (actually most definitely) will not be posting the videos on here, so you’ll have to head over to my YouTube channel to stay updated! I hope you’re all having a fantastic Wednesday!
PS: Follow me on Instagram to keep up with Loki (I know you saw his picture and was like “damn, I need that dog in my life.”)